Since I first visited Kyoto in 2015, Iāve often claimed that this was my favorite city Iāve ever been, even though I only spent two-and-a-half days here. It sunk into me deeply, though I sometimes wondered if the full swoon wasnāt premature. If it (or I) had changed.
Spoiler: NOPE. When you know, you know.
And Iāve never loved a place ā any place ā as deeply or deliriously as I love it here. My first two days I even started having ācountdown stressā about how much time remained before Iād have to leave again, missing it desperately long before Iād even gone. Because it is perfect here. And Iāll have to leave, and Iāll come again, but for now ā Right Now ā I am utterly open and loving to you, Kyoto.
At some point Iāll write about this trip once Iāve reflected on things I havenāt even experienced yet. But right now I want to tell you a different story:
The piece that follows was originally going to launch this Dang Old Man newsletter: an explanation/apology for why Iāve so quiet on social media for such a long time. Because itās a weird story thatās 100% hand-to-God true.
But I sat on it at the last minute because it wasnāt really the vibe I wanted to start our journey together with. But now that weāre a few pieces in, itās time has come.
So letās have a dance, shall we?
From late 2018 until around the start of this newsletter, Iāve been 98% off of social media, and havenāt posted anything remotely personal about my location or loved ones, only about my work if I had a project coming out.
It was a necessary and quickly-delicious silence, but initially it started after something terrifying, stupid and random happened to me in the looming shadow of something terrifying, stupid and calculated that is still happening to the United States of America.
As the eldest grandson of Holocaust survivors, my antennae have always been calibrated to āNever Againā mode. And detecting the threats coming from the White House, how theyād been escalating, and what was still yet to come was almost a delivery of a horrible promise foretold. I remember sitting in my grandparentsā condo as a kid in a humid cloud of cigarette smoke and my Zeide telling me: āTheyāll come for us again, they always do. Next time it will happen here, in America.ā
After hidden-in-plain-sight white nationalist salutes and Charlottesville and all the things Iām still too soul-tired to name here started populating our minds in the present, I promised myself I would not exist in constant panic, but I would keep my ears to the train tracks, and watch the exits like my family before me had done.
By Fall 2018, Iād been living in Los Angeles for a few years ādeveloping TV showsā ā meaning I spent my days writing in cafes: spec scripts, series treatments and pitch decks ā in rooms filled to capacity every day with other writers also ādeveloping TV showsā. How I came to be out there is a whole other post, which is coming. Promise.
One October morning, Iām up early, writing furiously in a crowded East Hollywood cafĆ© that bakes their own croissants. Iām building out season two of a (still brilliant!) TV series that doesnāt exist yet and probably never will. My hyper-caffeinated manic keystrokes are accompanied by accordian gurgles from my stomach: too much coffee, please feed body some actual food. Other screenwriters around me glare through their expensive eyewear, neighbors who Iād never meet, hating me for interrupting their flow states. I shut my laptop and walk outside towards home.
Where I use the toilet. Wash my hands. Drink a glass of slightly-funky water from the Britta pitcher and post up at my office desk.
When the phone rings. An unknown number; LA area code. Could this be Fortune, finally calling about one of my still-brilliant pilot scripts? My series pitch deck that was a guaranteed-success bolt of culture-moving lightning? Like a schmuck, my heart soars. And like a schmuck, I pick up:
MANāS VOICE: Good morning. Is this Daniel Aaron Goldman residing at 1234 Whatever Street?
ME: Yes, it is.
MANāS VOICE: Daniel Aaron Goldman whose Social Security number is XXX-XX-XXX?
ME: ā¦ [I do not answer him, I just listen]
He verifies that he knows my last two mailing addresses, my motherās address, the license plate number the Mini I have parked out back.
ME: OK Mister, you got my attention. Identify yourselfā¦
MANāS VOICE: Sir, my name is Agent Something at the FBIās Counter-Terrorism unit in Los Angeles.
[WTF? I swallow loudly.]
AGENT SOMETHING: Mister Goldman, have you received any unexpected packages at 1234 Whatever Street from unknown senders within the last two weeks?
ME: Iā¦ No I havenāt butā Sorry, what is this about?
He takes a pause, considering his words, choosing these:
AGENT SOMETHING: Iām not sure if youāre familiar with the recent case of an individual who mailed explosive devices to key members of the Democratic Partyā
ME: āand Robert DeNiro. The fucktard from Florida with the stickers all over his van.
[He clears his throat, not appreciating my use of the word fucktard.]
[To jog your memory, dear reader, this was The Fucktard in Questionās vanš]
AGENT SOMETHING: We currently have that individual in custody, and are reviewing potential additional targets found in his laptop.
[He pauses here, like an actor.]
AGENT SOMETHING: Your name and address appeared on that list, Mr. Goldman.
He kept talking. Or at least voice-sounds kept coming out of the phone, I assumed it was him. Suddenly my office, glazed with that honey-colored L.A. light, grew very cold. All I could think about was: I mean, me? ME? Who the fuck was I to merit a slot on a MAGA BOMBERāS DEATH LIST?
I mean, yeah, Iād covered the 2008 election in comic form, but that was hardly partisan. We treated all candidates equally badly. I never even tried to be a Twitter pundit; my political opinions always stayed in the bar or family dinner, because theyāre my own opinions. And Iād never had enough faith in the USA to trust its simplistic red-vs-blue political team sports. Deep down, we all know the real engine driving us all off the cliff is capitalism.
And yet: I was on his list?
Off in the distance, Agent Somethingās mumbling started tapering off: he was tying all this up, promising me to be vigilant. I wrote down his direct line to get in touch in case any suspicious packages did arrive on my doorstep and NOT TO OPEN THEM.
He hung up. And I sat alone in my office in California silence. Palm trees swayed high overhead. Hummingbirds drank from jasmine flowers just outside my window. My eyes scanned my office walls bookshelves nervously while one of my cats snoozed upside-down in a sunbeam on the couch. None of this made sense, unlessā
There was another āDan Goldmanā who was more of a political figure. An attorney in New York ā whose full name includes both Goldman and Sachs ā who was sometimes a pundit on MSNBC. He was considered a public enemy of Trump World and would later lead the first impeachment case against Trump.
A theory was beginning to form: I wasnāt even the Florida fucktard intended target. Heād likely half-assed his Google research and planned to mail a bomb to an unwitting cartoonist instead. Which, if successful, would have made my death a bonus kill. Insult to injury, but make it mortal.
I was livid now, on top of being scared and upset. This was the closest Iād ever come to the hatescape of social media entering my real-world life, my actual home. And that was close enough for me to (quickly) resolve to take a nice loooong break and reduce my online visibility to near-zero.
And the longer I stayed away, the better not being exposed to social media felt to me ā even when I had a new and personal book launch in late 2019, which had the results youād expect ā until, wellā¦ I started to miss connecting with everyone in my little global circle and started this very newsletter.
Epilogue: The Other Dan Goldman
Itās 2021. Iām back in Brooklyn again, in the heady days of the Omicron variant, wandering around my old neighborhood of Park Slope. On Fifth Avenue, I find myself facing the election office for The Other Dan Goldman, now running for Congress.
Iād seen his placards all over the area for weeks ā his/mu name big with the Brooklyn Bridge logo ā and every time, all I could think about was my bomb call with FBI Agent Something. What a dumb fucking death that wouldāve/couldāve been.
I had to go inside. Maybe we was there. I could tell him this story and weād laugh and heād sympathize and maybe offer me a bottled water andā
He wasnāt there. Of course he wasnāt there.
But the office was full of young bright-eyed interns. They stuffed pamphlets into my hands and suddenly the thought formed in my head of how to make this all worth it:
ME: Do yāall have anyā¦ promo baseball caps?
INTERN (glowing): We do! Would you like one?
ME: I would.
They handed me a cap and I slapped it onto my head, chuckling to myself as it feels like the perfect period at the end of this whole weird sentence. I thank them and turn to leave, but I stop because... Iāve got to say something, right?
ME: You know, Iām also a āDan Goldmanā.
INTERN (nonplussed): Haha, cool. Yeah, youāre like, the sixth one this week.
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OK Children
Story time is over for this week; Iāve got to get back out into that Kyoto heat. Iāll be home soon with another post for you shortly. Until then š
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